Are your words of comfort actually not-so-comforting? — Enough Light

Laura posted this on her blog, Enough Light, yesterday. It’s like she took my scrambled up thoughts and emotions and made sense out of them. 🙂

Just a brief post to help us consider the words we say when someone has experienced a loss. Romans 12:15 says “Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.” I know people want to be comforting, yet sometimes the things we say can be anything but. Those who have experienced certain types of […]

Are your words of comfort actually not-so-comforting? — Enough Light

5 thoughts on “Are your words of comfort actually not-so-comforting? — Enough Light

  1. The Eclectic Contrarian December 10, 2020 / 9:00 am

    I tend to be either too nice or maybe come across as not caring enough.

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  2. Paul Martin December 11, 2020 / 7:21 am

    We Christians often have many platitudes that we say..

    “Give it to Jesus, brother… Or sister”….

    “Just pray about it”…

    “Let go and let God”…

    Or, ” You shouldn’t be sad…He (She) is with Jesus!”

    “Don’t CLAIM that negative, Brother (Sister)”…

    It gets worse…

    “I rebuke this ________in the name of Jesus!

    “This is ALL the DEVIL”….I REBUKE SATAN for ___________”

    In doing so, we try and make ourselves appear more spiritual, but we TOTALLY miss the need of the person who’s going through the loss or the trial!!! Sad! ☹️ When my son was diagnosed with Cancer, some well meaning person told me not to “claim” it, and proceeded to “rebuke” my son’s diagnosis! They then passively agressively suggested that I and my wife were probably in sin…

    Enter Job’s three “friends”.

    I have heard it said that “if someone is going through a storm, resist the urge to curse the rain…instead, hand them an umbrella.”

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    • Linda Lee/Lady Quixote December 11, 2020 / 8:56 am

      I don’t even know what to say in reply to this, Paul. You said it all. God bless you and your precious family. ❤

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  3. 🌲Anna Gone Wild December 14, 2020 / 4:54 am

    Words have so much more impact then most of us would like to think. Thank-you for the reminder. It leaves me thinking are we slow to speak… I’m applying that to my own life.

    What may seem like a simple post leaves ample room for much reflection as I do my devotional this morning. Thank-you!

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    • Linda Lee/Lady Quixote December 14, 2020 / 1:36 pm

      Thank you, Anna, for your kind, affirming words. I really appreciate it.

      I found your comment in my spam folder. I know you are definitely not a spammer! A few months ago, all of my comments that I left on other people’s blogs suddenly started going straight to spam. After getting nowhere with WP customer service, I found a way to stop that from happening. If your comments are typically going to spam, let me know and I will tell you what I did to correct that.


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