Just a brief post to help us consider the words we say when someone has experienced a loss. Romans 12:15 says “Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.” I know people want to be comforting, yet sometimes the things we say can be anything but. Those who have experienced certain types of […]
Are your words of comfort actually not-so-comforting? — Enough Light
Are your words of comfort actually not-so-comforting? — Enough Light
Laura posted this on her blog, Enough Light, yesterday. It’s like she took my scrambled up thoughts and emotions and made sense out of them. 🙂
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I tend to be either too nice or maybe come across as not caring enough.
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We Christians often have many platitudes that we say..
“Give it to Jesus, brother… Or sister”….
“Just pray about it”…
“Let go and let God”…
Or, ” You shouldn’t be sad…He (She) is with Jesus!”
“Don’t CLAIM that negative, Brother (Sister)”…
It gets worse…
“I rebuke this ________in the name of Jesus!
“This is ALL the DEVIL”….I REBUKE SATAN for ___________”
In doing so, we try and make ourselves appear more spiritual, but we TOTALLY miss the need of the person who’s going through the loss or the trial!!! Sad! ☹️ When my son was diagnosed with Cancer, some well meaning person told me not to “claim” it, and proceeded to “rebuke” my son’s diagnosis! They then passively agressively suggested that I and my wife were probably in sin…
Enter Job’s three “friends”.
I have heard it said that “if someone is going through a storm, resist the urge to curse the rain…instead, hand them an umbrella.”
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I don’t even know what to say in reply to this, Paul. You said it all. God bless you and your precious family. ❤
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Words have so much more impact then most of us would like to think. Thank-you for the reminder. It leaves me thinking are we slow to speak… I’m applying that to my own life.
What may seem like a simple post leaves ample room for much reflection as I do my devotional this morning. Thank-you!
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Thank you, Anna, for your kind, affirming words. I really appreciate it.
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