When the Apollo 11 Moon Landing Happened, This is Where I Was

Linda Lee/Lady Quixote

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I was a teenager on the day of the Apollo 11 moon landing. Sixteen years old, to be exact. And I was incarcerated on the maximum security ward of the now-defunct State Hospital Number 3 in the town of Nevada, Missouri. I had been a patient there for a little over one year.

Why was I locked up on Maximum Security, alongside the “criminally insane?” I kept running away, that’s why. Call me crazy, but I did not want to spend the rest of my life trapped inside a human warehouse. Or an inhuman warehouse, as the case may be. And I knew that I was most likely destined to be there until the day I died. Why did I believe this? Was I paranoid? No, I knew this was a fact because Dr. Conn, the psychiatrist who did my intake interview a few days after my parents left me at the institution, had very plainly told me so.

My conversation with Dr. Conn went something like this:

Conn: “Okay, Miss Linda, now that you have answered my questions, do you have any questions for me?”

Me: “Yes, just one. How soon will I be able to go home?”

I was expecting him to say something along the lines of: “maybe in a month or two.” This would fit in nicely with what my mother had said on the way to the asylum, when I pleaded with my parents not to take me there. ‘Don’t worry, you won’t be there long. In a few weeks, after you are well, then you can come home.’

But Dr. Conn didn’t say anything like that. Instead, this is what he said, reeling off the numbers in a bored, robotic tone:

“According to the current statistics, 97% of the patients committed to this institution are never permanently released. And, those odds go down after the first year. If you are still here one year from now, your statistical chance of ever being released from this asylum will be less than 1%. So, if you ever want to get out of here, you need to hurry up and make yourself well. Because, you see, nobody can make you well, except YOU.”

He must have seen a look of shocked disbelief on my face, because at this point, the doctor got huffy. “If you don’t believe me, go ask the other patients on the ward how long they have been here,” he said. And with that I was dismissed, never to speak with this psychiatrist again. Therapy wasn’t done in this institution during the late 1960s, at least not on most of the wards I was on. You were made to swallow pills twice a day. That was it.

I did ask several of my fellow patients how long they had been in the institution. Eight years was the shortest answer I remember hearing. The average was more than twenty years. So, I started running away at every opportunity. Each time I ran, I was quickly caught and then punished with at least two days in solitary confinement, usually while strapped down to the bed with four point restraints. Of course, this treatment only made me even more determined to escape.

Once, I managed to elude recapture for two whole days and my escape was broadcast on the news. Later, my father told me how embarrassing it was to come home after a hard day at work and turn on the evening news, only to hear my name announced, along with the fact that I had escaped from the insane asylum.

Yeah, poor dad. And also poor Mom, who had the hard job, as I later learned, of going home and hauling everything I owned off to the town dump. Because she certainly never intended for me to come home again, and “looking at all the reminders” was upsetting to her.

That time when I ran and was gone two days, after I was found, tackled to the ground, and returned to the institution, an irate hospital administrator cursed me out, then ordered me to be taken immediately to maximum security.

Which is where I was when the first astronaut walked on the moon.

The thing is, I didn’t know anything about the Apollo 11 moon mission. I’m sure there must have been plenty about it on TV. And yes, the wards in that institution at the time all had one black and white console television, down near the nurses’ station, which was kept on nearly all day, every day, for the patients to watch.

Prior to my parents’ taking me to the mental institution — against my doctor’s advice, I might add — I had loved to watch television, especially comedy shows. But after Dr. Conn informed me that I had less than a 3% chance of ever leaving that “hospital” alive — a dismal statistic that had regressed to less than 1%, when I reached the one year mark — I simply could not bear to watch television anymore.

Why couldn’t I stand to watch TV? Because most of the shows and even the commercials depicted people living their lives: going to high school, going out on dates, getting into college, falling in love, getting married, having children, having a career, having FUN — all of those things that I knew I had virtually no chance of ever being able to do. My life had ended at the age of fourteen and a half, done before I was old enough to drive a car. Knowing this, I found that sitting and staring into space all day, at the quiet end of the ward, hurt my heart a lot less than watching television.

One hot and muggy July day (the institution had no air conditioning), one of my fellow patients came running down the hall toward me, calling my name. I did not know her name, and I was surprised she knew mine. Like the majority of patients there, she did not speak to me, or to anyone, ever. I don’t know if our silence was due to the zombie-like effects of our twice daily forced drugging, or to the utter hopelessness of being incarcerated for life in such a sad place, or both. Whatever the reason, on a typical day, only the manic types talked or moved around very much. The rest of us either quietly walked the floors or sat on a hard wooden rocking chair, trying to be invisible, and trying not to feel any emotions.

But here this woman was now, running toward me and calling my name. “Linda! Linda! Come quick, you have to see this!”

“Uh, what — what do I have to see?”

“A man, an astronaut, in a space suit. They blasted off in a rocket a few days ago, and now he is walking on the moon! It’s on the television, come and look!”

I am ashamed and embarrassed to remember what I said next. It was something that you never, ever said to another patient in the mental institution, not unless you wanted to get into a fight. And I was far too skinny and too much of a ‘fraidy cat to want to fight.

But I said it. I don’t know why. The words were out of my mouth before I could stop them. Blame it on the Thorazine, maybe?

“You’re crazy!” I told her. Augh, regrets. Just writing those two ugly, hateful words makes my heart ache. I can’t believe I really said that, to a fellow patient in an insane asylum. No!!

This woman whose name I never did learn looked taken aback, but only for a moment. Then, God bless her, she grinned.

“Yes, I guess I am crazy,” she said, kindly refraining from adding ‘and so are you, you little brat’. “But there really are astronauts on the moon right now. Come and see for yourself!”

So I followed her down to the television alcove and watched in disbelief as a U.S. Astronaut took his “one small step — one giant leap” on the lunar surface.

For many years, I had assumed that what I saw on TV that day was happening live. Almost seven and a half years earlier, I had sat spellbound with my third grade class, watching and listening, live as it was happening, when John Glenn became the first American astronaut to orbit the earth. I had written a lengthy, detailed report on the event, which so impressed my third grade teacher that she had featured my report at the school’s Open House that fall. She told my parents they “absolutely must” find a way to put me through college, to keep from wasting my talent.

But, instead of getting on the fast track to college, my high school education had come to a standstill in the middle of my Freshman year. And now here I was, watching Neil Armstrong bounce around on the moon, not knowing that the live event had happened the night before, when we were all in bed, sleeping the sleep of the heavily drugged.

But I saw it, in any case, soon after it happened. Our country had landed a man on the moon!

Five months later, after a series of events both terrible and wonderful, I was released from the mental institution. And all of those things that I had thought I would never get to do, like drive a car, continue my education, marry, have children and grandchildren — I have been able to do all of those things, and more.

But I was no more deserving than the 97-99% of patients who were never released from the Nevada, Missouri State Hospital Number 3, before it was permanently closed and shut down in the 1990s. I am no one special at all. And sometimes, the survivor’s guilt grieves my heart. I am grateful, so very grateful. But a big part of my heart is permanently broken for the multitudes who were never given the chances that I have had.

Last weekend, I flew to Connecticut for my granddaughter’s wedding. I got to hug two of my three adult children, I hugged all three of my grown grandchildren, and I ran up and down hills and up and down stairs with my six year old great-grandson.

My granddaughter and her brand new husband wrote their own vows. His began: “To the woman with long brown hair, a shy smile, and one dimple, whom I met four years ago at Harvard . . .” His vows ended with the words: “I promise to love you forever and ever.”

Fifty years ago, none of this seemed possible. Then a man walked on the moon, and a young woman, broken like I was, cared enough to tell me about it.

It’s not about the moonwalk.

It’s about the caring.

PS. Yes, I am writing a book. It’s entitled Growing Up Crazy, My Life with Complex PTSD. I hope to have it published in 2020.

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33 thoughts on “When the Apollo 11 Moon Landing Happened, This is Where I Was”

  1. Sue Cass July 20, 2019 / 2:52 pm

    You are an amazing woman and God has definitely held you in His hand. God bless you Linda.

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    • Linda Lee/@LadyQuixote July 24, 2019 / 8:36 pm

      Thank you so much, Sue. I don’t feel very amazing, but I do appreciate you saying so. Our God is amazing, that’s for sure! 💘💘💘

      (WHY would WP send this comment of yours to spam?!?)

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  2. gracemercyjoy July 20, 2019 / 3:09 pm

    What a horrific experience, and yes, the abuse of the mental health system to punish the family black sheet is common.

    Patricia Deegan PhD, wrote “Recovery and the Conspiracy of Hope” about being institutionalized at age 17, at that time she was told she was schizophrenic and that she’d be institutionalized all her life. The article can be found online its a tear-jerker. Unlike your horrific situation, her family didn’t abuse her into a hospital, she heard voices, but still the prognosis horrified her. I think she had the resiliency to defy that bigotry of low expectations because she had a supportive family. Love makes a very big difference, all the difference in the world. She earned a PhD and became world renowned for spreading the message that people recover ALL the TIME. If you escape an institution you will be really punished, how fitting the Dr.’s name was Dr. Conn
    Narcissist kill and eat their offspring metaphorically. Horrible people….

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  3. seekingdivineperspective July 20, 2019 / 3:53 pm

    I’m so sorry that happened to you, Linda! And so glad you got out and were able to build a life.
    Fifty years ago I was on the brink of a full-fledged eating disorder, which I kept very secret, for fear I would end up in a place like the one you described. After about 12 years, and with the help of Jesus Christ, I was delivered from that nightmare. Looking back, I used to think that I should have confided in someone, and I might have gotten some help and recovered sooner. Now I’m not so sure I made a mistake… wow …
    There’s a movie on Netflix that your story reminds me of, called “Breathe.” about a man who was institutionalized (different kind of institution) and managed to “escape.” He had survivor’s guilt, too, and ended up helping others that were still there. I don’t want to tell you too much about it, but my husband and i thought it was beautiful and inspiring. (True story, too!)

    Blessings,

    Annie

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    • Linda Lee/@LadyQuixote July 20, 2019 / 8:25 pm

      Hi Annie. I’ve been thinking about what you said here, wondering if you would have been better off if you had asked for help, 50 years ago, for the eating disorder you had then. I think it’s probably good that you didn’t. Although I did meet a few genuinely kind and caring mental health professionals in that time, they were greatly outnumbered, in my experience, by the other kind. The kind to whom the world is divided into “us” and “them,” and “them” don’t count.

      Asking for help is how I got into trouble. Outwardly, I was functioning the same as always, both in school and at home. But inwardly, I had some serious issues. I told my mom all about it, hoping she could tell me how to make my issues go away. But she made me go away, instead. I couldn’t understand, at the time, why she did that. Now, though, I am sure I’ve it figured out. Narcissism has a lot to do with it — and the things that my mother thought she was at risk of losing.

      The Lord Jesus Christ is the only way that I came through my nightmare. But it took me a very long time to figure that out!

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  4. @PreacherBiker July 20, 2019 / 4:11 pm

    Brought tears to my eyes and I am so glad that you are in my life

    Sent from my T-Mobile 4G LTE Device

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    • Linda Lee/@LadyQuixote July 20, 2019 / 4:18 pm

      God brought us together when the time was right. I love you, my best friend husband. 💘💘💘💘💘💘💘💘💘💘💘💘💘💘💘 — that’s one heart for every year of our marriage.

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  5. Alexis Rose July 20, 2019 / 4:44 pm

    Wow, you continue to inspire me with your brave truth. Im so sorry about the things that happened to you, Linda. I’m so proud of you for always persevering! Huge hugs to you this evening! ❤️❤️

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  6. hawk2017 July 20, 2019 / 5:49 pm

    Oh my. May you be greatly blessed with this book.:)

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    • Linda Lee/@LadyQuixote July 20, 2019 / 11:05 pm

      Thank you, Wendi. Today, my life is the best it has ever been. And my gratitude and joy are all the greater, because of how far my life has come.

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      • simplywendi July 21, 2019 / 9:00 am

        I am thrilled all your endurance, perseverance and fortitude brought you to a happy place.

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  8. Anna Waldherr July 21, 2019 / 1:14 pm

    Reading this was heartwrenching, Linda. I had no idea you suffered so grievously. Praise God that is now in the past. Your courage shines. Your strength is an inspiration to others. ❤

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  9. mitchteemley July 21, 2019 / 3:34 pm

    Wow, Linda. You story grows more intriguing with every post. Write–and thrive–on, my friend!

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  10. chrissiemorrisbrady July 23, 2019 / 10:56 am

    Thank you so much for writing this. I am also writing about my diagnosis. I admire your courage, and wish you success with your book. Chrissie

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    • Linda Lee/@LadyQuixote July 23, 2019 / 3:12 pm

      Thank you for your encouraging words, Chrissie. It’s not easy writing about these things sometimes. But I am learning a lot, about myself and about others, as I write my way through my story.

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      • Chrisssie Morris Brady July 28, 2019 / 8:32 am

        No, it isn’t easy. The honesty I demand from myself in my own blog meant I reluctantly posted about once a month. It wasn’t until I realised I could engage with other bloggers that I began to find it easier

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    • Linda Lee/@LadyQuixote July 23, 2019 / 3:15 pm

      Oops, I meant to say more, but my phone rang and I hit send on my comment by mistake. I just wanted to say that I checked out your blog, and now I am a new follower. Thanks for reaching out. 😊

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  11. Fleur McMorrow July 29, 2019 / 9:42 pm

    Hi Linda Lee–I’m stunned by all I’ve read here today, and my heart goes out to you. And my admiration for you is Bigger than I can fit in this comment box. You’re a trooper, an Overcomer–and I’m so glad you’re here to inspire us. I know about “crazy”, abuse, dysfunction, PTSD–was hospitalized often and toured every drug the psychiatrists received in their samples drawer, including Thorazine. I also volunteered for ECT–a short course only, because I realized it didn’t take away the old memories, only recent days’. Thank you for being authentic, genuine, open–I’m happy to meet you. God bless you and your husband abundantly. Fleur, who now depends on God alone 🙂 ❤

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    • Linda Lee/@LadyQuixote July 31, 2019 / 8:52 pm

      Wow! Thank you for your wonderful, affirming comment. I’m so happy to meet you! Sorry it took me so long to approve and reply to your comment. I have been uncommonly busy these past few days. Finally catching my breath…

      If I weren’t so tired right now, I am sure I would have a lot more to say. Again, thank you. I’m sorry you went through all of that, but so happy for where you are now. 😊 💘💘💘

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      • Fleur McMorrow July 31, 2019 / 9:04 pm

        No worries, life gets hectic 🙂 When God calls us HIS, HE intends to keep us–through every stormy sea, dark night and desert ❤

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  12. ourlittleredhouseblog July 31, 2019 / 6:05 pm

    Your story is going to help so many. So glad you were able to experience all that happiness you saw on television.

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    • Linda Lee/Lady Quixote February 28, 2021 / 6:59 am

      Thank you so much. I’m still writing the first draft, little by little, every single day. Getting close to the end. Sometimes I wonder if I will ever actually finish it. Lord willing, I will!

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