A Poem About Narcissistic Users and Abusers: Never Go Back


They break you
And then they hate you
For being broken

They lie to you
Then they despise you
For seeing the truth

They abuse you
Then they unfriend and block you
As though YOU did something wrong

When they run out of supply
They will swoop back in
With fake promises, false repentance, and imitation love

Never go back
To the ones who broke you —
A tiger does not change his stripes.

–Linda Lee, copyright 2017

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I just want to clarify that people CAN change, heal, and grow, if they really want to, and if they are willing to do the hard work that is required. My husband and I are proof that this is true, we have both come a very long way since our respective PTSD issues were diagnosed.

However, it has been my experience that the majority of narcissistic abusers do not change. The many books and articles I have read on the topic agree that it is very rare for abusers to give up their manipulative ways. In my lifetime, I have gone back again and again to users and abusers, hoping that this time things would be different. But the “difference” was always very short-lived. No more!

The Armor of God

Ephesians 6:10-18 New International Version (NIV)

The Armor of God

10 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power.
11 Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes.
12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.
13 Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.
14 Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place,
15 and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace.
16 In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one.
17 Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.

18 And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.

New International Version (NIV)

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