My daughter and granddaughters on Broadway with the actor Kelsey Grammer.
My daughter and granddaughters on Broadway with the actor Kelsey Grammer.

My daughter (in the picture with “Frasier”) has had a very bad day. I have been praying so hard about her situation. But it seems like my prayers aren’t getting past the ceiling.

Renee (not my daughter’s real name) sent me this text a few minutes ago:

“Today was difficult beyond words…throughout the hearing, lunch break and since, the poem “If” kept coming to mind… it has been my favorite poem for a long time… it’s how I’ve always tried to live my life… you should read it again…”

I found it on Wikipedia — IF written in 1895 by British Nobel laureate Rudyard Kipling:

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on!”

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son.

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24 thoughts on “IF

  1. survivednarc March 23, 2016 / 9:13 pm

    I am sorry things are hard for your daugther! I hope it will get better!!
    A very beautiful and inspiring poem. I hope it can give your daughter a little extra strength, along with you being there for her, of course.

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  2. katiesdream2004 March 23, 2016 / 9:24 pm

    What a moving poem, thank you for posting it! It tells me that no matter what your daughter has endured if such a thing comes to her mind in a time of deep pain, she is already being made beautiful in her suffering. Tested and tried by fire may the radiance of a heart that thinks on the lines of this poem while in adversity and suffering find comfort in the arms of God.. She is a light already, it takes as long as it takes. While those hard bad and ugly chapters are written in the book of our lives, they don’t end there. The final chapter is meant for glory

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      • katiesdream2004 March 23, 2016 / 9:31 pm

        Watching kids be hurt is devastating, as mothers I think we’d rather take the pain ourselves….
        Prayers for you both

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  3. luckyotter March 23, 2016 / 9:39 pm

    And that’s a beautiful moving poem. I can sense how much love you and your daughter and grandaughters have for one another.

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    • Lady Quixote/Linda Lee March 23, 2016 / 9:51 pm

      Thank you. It always hasn’t been this way. There has been a lot of healing and growth, in my daughter and in me. My granddaughters, too.

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  4. atimetoshare.me March 24, 2016 / 6:05 am

    One of my favorite poems too. My prayers continue for you and your daughter and her children. There are so many difficult lessons in life. God does have a purpose for this. It seems to me you’ve instilled some of that hope in your daughter. Hang in there, Linda!

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  5. Mary Cathleen Clark March 24, 2016 / 9:25 am

    I hope things go well for your daughter, and by virtue of that, go well for you. No matter their age, it’s heartbreaking to see you child in pain and not be able to take it all away.
    I loved the poem…thank you for sharing.

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    • Lady Quixote/Linda Lee March 24, 2016 / 9:32 am

      Thank you. My daughter (on the left in the picture) has an adult daughter (on the right) who is engaged and in a master’s program at Harvard — and yet, in my heart, my daughter is still my baby girl.

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  6. S.W. Biddulph April 6, 2016 / 6:44 am

    I too suffered PTSD from witnessing a double homicide. I was lucky to live that day, but I also felt survivors guilt as well. I’ve since found peace and rarely have a flare up. I wish your daughter and family healing and peace. Also, thanks for sharing such a wonderful poem; I’d never read it before.

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    • Lady Quixote/Linda Lee April 6, 2016 / 8:05 am

      That has to be one of the most horrifying experiences. My daughter also witnessed a murder, when she was only thirteen. After shooting our neighbor, the killer pointed his gun at my daughter and said “You don’t see nothing, girl.” Then my daughter passed out.

      What an insane world we live in. It helps me to remember that there is more goodness in the world than evil. If that weren’t true, I believe we would have destroyed ourselves long ago.

      I have a police officer friend who was brought up as an atheist. He told me he became a Christian believer “through the back door,” as he put it, because he learned through his police work that evil is real. He said: “I figured that if evil is real, the opposite of evil must be real, too.”

      Thanks for stopping by and thank you especially for sharing your success in healing from the effects of PTSD. 🙂

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      • S.W. Biddulph April 6, 2016 / 8:13 am

        I totally agree about the good and evil thing, and I didn’t want to say it because I wasn’t sure about your beliefs or worldview, but I became a Christian in 2012. That’s what helpbed me to overcome the PTSD. The homicide happened in 2009. God bless.

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        • Lady Quixote/Linda Lee April 6, 2016 / 8:34 am

          I appreciate what you’re saying. We do have to walk a fine line between sharing our hope and strength, without being disrespectful of others’ God-given right to believe, or not, as they see fit. Boldly sharing our beliefs is great, but not if we offend someone right out of the starting gate, so that they won’t listen to anything else we say.

          I just clicked on your gravatar and found your Christian Biker blog. I have added your blogspot url to my WordPress reader. I just recently discovered that we WP bloggers can do that with non WordPress sites, as long as there is a newsfeeder attached… if I’m remembering the term correctly?

          My husband is a chaplain. He is also a biker. That is, he was a biker, until he went down while doing a run with the Vietnam Veteran Memorial moveable wall, in March of 2014. He almost lost his leg, thank God be didn’t. He did lose some cognitive ability, although that seems to be slowly improving. His email address, one of them, is Biker4theLord. He misses riding. I miss riding with him. But I am super grateful that I did not lose my best friend husband two years ago. He was going at least 60 mph on the interstate right outside of Albuquerque when a car pulled out in front of him and he went down.

          Ride safe and God bless.

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          • S.W. Biddulph April 6, 2016 / 8:45 am

            I’m so thankful that your husband was not killed. I haven’t written on the Christian biker blog much in the last several months. I rode with a motorcycle club for 14 years and if you read some of the posts it’ll tell a little of my history in my experience before I was saved. I still ride my Harley and, I’m a member of a motorcycle Ministry, butt that’s about all I do these days in terms of my motorcycle lifestyle. I returned to college, as did my wife, and we’re both finishing our English degrees and writing. I’ve seen a lot of death and violence in my past, and I saw a lot of brothers, in my old Club lifestyle, who were killed in motorcycle wrecks, so thank God your husband is ok. I wish you all health and many blessings.

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